1.Assuming you are a perfect parent.
This is the main issue; the delusion that becoming a parent automatically makes you a perfect person therefore a perfect parent too. This means you will not seek to improvement.
2. Parents/caregivers assuming their kids are angels and will continue to be so.
Even though your teen clearly dresses like a gang member, clearly does not work but buys you an iPhone pro max that even yourself who works can't afford; Yet parents turn a blind eye.
I recently spoke to an elderly Caribbean women who mentioned she has a 14 yro grandson who lives in Birmingham, UK , yet she says he is a good boy and not at risk of committing crime . " oh he is a good boy he doesn't get into those things." The assumption IS REAL.. and that's how people find themselves with that dreadful phone call to say your sweet grandson is in prison or dead due to gang involvement . Something that could have been identified and helped at an earlier stage IF the parents did not assume that their child is too sweet for the streets.
3.Parents not looking at their actions.
You have parents who are gangsters. Parents who commit crime. We have parents like rapper Da baby who will not raise no Obama but another thug because the Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. We have mothers like Cardi B who is raising another Cardi B that will attract another Offset. We have parents like your local drug dealer, when you see these gangs on the news, understand most of them are parents. Most of them have a women who chose to give birth to a child for a drug dealer yet will be surprised to find out her son has been arrested for selling drugs. It's hard to be in the streets but raise your kids out of the streets.
4.Watch who you have kids with :
Choose carefully. The women /men who choose to have kids with gang bangers, drug dealers, etc.. We have women who will willingly have a child with a guy who is in prison or has been, is an active gang member, sells drugs, actively commits crime or is involved in the streets in some ways yet will blame the government when they get the dreadful news your son/daughter is in prison or dead. We don't do the maths, we just want love and pleasure.
5. Assuming they themselves are not at risk of committing crime.
This leads to parents not actively working on yourself nor doing things to potentially prevent crime in your offspring as you never know when you may need the tools to keep yourself out of crime .
Many think they are above the law and will never commit a crime; like some royals, our world leaders, your boss, favourite celebrity, the police etc.. no one is above the law. Unless you are not human, you have committed a crime , can potentially commit a crime or are at risk of committing a crime. It is in our nature. Be it a minor crime that may as well not be a crime, a crime no one will bother arresting you for, a crime that isn't a crime in your country but is in another country, whatever it may be, if you are human and you have human family, we all are at risk of committing a crime. Even children and babies commit crimes ; they are just not criminally responsible yet.
6. The environment you raise your kid in.
Secondary socialisation takes place when a child learns the values, beliefs and attitudes of their culture through those outside of the family. This is why where you raise your kids matter. If you raise them in a rough area, around gang members etc.. you make it harder for your children to abstain from similar paths.
7. Swearing using foul language or behaviour that are criminally related .
It's not helpful. Especially parents who speak slang to their children. We see parents who say "yo" to their children, parents who say "fam" , "cuz" and all sorts yet do not think of the types of people that will be attracted to your offspring's as a result of them speaking with slang language they were brought up with; "Yo cuz". Worse of it when parents teach their kids to learn slang words. There are parents who teach their kids slang or gang signs; sometimes even videoing it to upload to social media. How can you teach or encourage your child to speak slang/gang language and expect them to not follow that path?
8. How you dress, how you act.
Mirroring is the behavior in which one person subconsciously imitates the gesture, speech pattern, or attitude of another. Mirroring often occurs in social situations, particularly in the company of close friends or family, often going unnoticed by both parties. What you do, how you dress influences your children. If you dress and act like a gangster, ghetto your children will also do so. Similarly, if you act and dress like a winner, your children will also do so. This also goes for how you present yourself online.
9. Allowing certain people around your kids.
They will influence your offspring to be the same; talk the same, dress the same, get involved in the same things. Is that what you want?
10. Letting/ encouraging your offspring to listen to violent rap music or pursuit rapping career that influences them to get involved in gangs.
Letting kids rap along to or know lyrics to gang songs or even worse allowing or encouraging your kid to be a rapper who's rapping about gangs and violence. We see many proud parents snapping their kids who are singing along to Tion Wayne or Bobish Smurda rapping all lyrics, yet the moment that kid is in jail or dead because of gang affiliation, it becomes the government fault; blame the system rather than looking closer to home; at yourself.
11.Not guiding your kids.
I've heard parents say " if I knew better I would show you better". Well you're not a baby, you are meant to be a responsible parent. It's time to get up and learn better so you can teach your kids better rather than just giving in and leaving it at "if I knew better I would do better ". If not you then who? As the primary caretaker of your child, the responsibility of guiding your child falls primarily on you; the parent. Not the police, not the school or a charity .
Conclusion:
It's one thing encouraging your child's criminal behaviour, however when faced with the consequences of your encouragement, take responsibility. You as a parent create the gang members from they are born by the way you raise them. The things you have, say and do around them.
Love,
Gooc